Get Your Ex Back After Cheating: The Basics of Rebuilding The Trust

If you cheated on your ex, it's not going to be easy to win them back. But it's also not necessarily a death sentence for your relationship.

A lot of people get back in a healthy relationship after they cheated on their ex. In most cases, it takes a lot of time to repair the trust, heal and get back together. But in some cases, couples get back together within a few weeks or months of breaking up due to infidelity.

How To Get Your Ex Back After Cheating?

If your ex broke up with you because of cheating and you want them back, you should be respectful of their need for space, while not completely ignoring them. At the same time, analyze the reason you cheated, and figure out a way to make sure it doesn't happen ever again. If your ex is open to the idea of getting back together, rebuild the relationship on the foundation of honest, respect and communication.

1. It may not be a good idea to try to get back together: If it feels impossible to rebuild the trust, then you are better off not getting back together. Sometimes, infidelity is a sign of a broken relationship and broken trust, not the cause. While it's still not an excuse, you should seriously consider giving up on your relationship if it feels impossible to trust each other again.

2. You should try to fix the issues that lead to this breakup: In most cases, there were issues in the relationship that lead to the infidelity. Again, not an excuse. But you should analyze and figure out those issues and try to understand how you could have addressed those issues and avoided infidelity altogether.

3. Things are not going to be easy after getting back together: When you get back together, your new relationship is going to be significantly different from what it was. You may have to make some sacrifices. You may have to be okay with your partner checking up on you every once in a while. Rebuilding trust may take a long time. But if you are both honest and communicate with each other in a healthy manner, your new relationship will be stronger than before.

4. You can come back from infidelity: A lot of people don't see infidelity as a death sentence for the relationship. According to one survey conducted on 1800 people by Relationship Australia, a majority of survey respondents considered that infidelity should not always signal the end of the relationship (male respondents – 64%; female respondents – 54%)

5. Both men and women cheat on their partners: And more or less, the reason for cheating and the frequency for cheating is similar. The process of getting back with an ex after cheating remains similar whether you are a man or a woman in a heterosexual relationship, or if you were in a gay relationship.

Reader Experience: I Cheated on My Husband and I Got Him Back

My affair lasted only two weeks. It was with an office coworker. When my husband found out, he was devastated. He said he never thought I could do something like that. I never thought I could do something like that either. I denied it at first. I told him it was just a one time thing. But then he saw my emails. I never deleted those. He didn't give me enough time to check. He found out that it had been going on for two weeks. And then I confessed.